Well the whole country is going nuts about the delhi rape case and quite rightly so. I was thinking about the reasons why there are a few men who behave like animals. Then I realised this mindset is planted into so many men just that so many 'thankfully' are not 'courageous' enough to be ass****s.. A small example is bollywood (read 'any Indian language'wood) and what all it teached us for the past 3 decades or so !! Luckily I didn't need to write a elaborate article since I came across this wonderful one !! Here it goes..
Things you can learn from the movies about women:
1) If a woman is not interested in talking to you, you have to harass
her for a while, sing a romantic song and when the song ends, she will
fall in love with you.
2) Rape is a popular tool for marriage and
revenge in the movies of 1990's. After a woman is raped, she cries 'Oh! I
have lost my honour and now I have to marry my rapist.'
3) After marriage, a modern woman wearing skirts and jeans suddenly become traditional and family-type, by wearing sarees.
4) To marry a woman who doesn't like you, it is enough if you forcibly
tie the mangal sutra around her neck. Then she is your wife,
irrespective of whether she likes it or not.
5) Men drink and smoke
for fun and in varied styles while a woman who drinks and smokes is of a
loose character and not fit for marriage to the hero. The hero usually
has some dialogues for her 'stop drinking, smoking and learn to be a
proper woman'
6) The rape scenes are shown elaborately with all
details of trauma, pain and glamour but consensual love- making scenes
between couples start and end when the lamp is turned on and off. Before
the year2000, Sex scenes were considered controversial more than the
rape scenes.
7) When two women love the same hero, one woman would
be a skirt- wearing and skin-exposing moden woman while the other women
would be a saree-wearing conservative woman. The hero dances and plays
with the first woman but marries the second woman.
8) After defeating the villain, the hero proudly tells him 'Go wear a woman's dress now, loser'.
9) When a woman shouts or gives a solution, she will be told not to argue like a man.
10) When the hero pinches the heroine's waist (before they know each
other), she abuses him and few minutes later there will be song in which
both will be dancing romantically.
So much cultural and
social brain- washing has happened through the movies between 1980 and
2000. Now though some movies give dominant and meaningful roles to
women, producing a huge heroine-based movie is not considered
financially feasible as there is no market or fan audience to watch such
stories. As long as we promote the hero as a muscular body of character
and action; and the heroine character as a sexy body for glamour and
lust, the same mentality will also be reflected in real life.
But this doesn't mean I would like the law and justice of this country to wait for another decade or so where we can refine brains. I don't want my mom, sister, wife or for that matter any girl in this country to walk out of home without the belief that they are going to come back safe or alive.. Harsh punishments short term and refinement of all these bullshit mentioned above in long term should be the way forward..
